The “blame game” and shutting people up by telling them they’re “too sensitive” are certainly both real things. My mum, I think, tried her best to raise my brother and me under difficult circumstances so I hate saying it but she’s acted very similarly towards me. I feel kind of distant from her now, which is partly because of not knowing what kind of support, if any, I’d get when I had an issue.
I’ve been blamed for stuff I technically couldn’t have done/caused (she once implied my new car nearly got T-boned at a junction because I drive “too fast”, not because the other driver wasn’t paying attention and missed me by a couple of inches. Being able to control other cars would be a brilliant power to have, not gonna lie, but sadly I can’t! )
It really doesn’t matter whether anyone else would disagree that this was neglect or abuse. Your opinion on how it impacted you is really what counts. A good therapist would validate and help you, so don’t discount seeing one if you still want to talk to someone.