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Originally Posted by ruby2011
I'm going through a really hard time given that yet another person who used to treat me kindly walked out on me. I took to Facebook retail and fast food workers group (the person who walked out on me was someone I worked with) and got ridiculed. Some gave good advice but most of the comments were ridicule and criticism. I'm glad to have gotten banned from that group.
One of the comments were, "He didn't walk out on you. He transferred." Well duh no sh;t. He transferred but he didn't walk out on my coworkers. He walked out on me. They're not the one he's ignoring when he stops by to borrow stuff. I'm here to complain about these very coworkers, most of whom are ridicule me just as much, to the point that I wish they would just ignore me more. I'm just grateful for the few that are sympathetic.
My GM transferred at the end of March. But he walked out on me 6 weeks ago (idk beginning of May). That was when my coworkers and shift managers started looking down on me. It started with them generally not wanting to associate with me. When they did, it was to point out how I was supposed to do my job or to falsely tell me that the GM stopped by just to see my reaction. They also rub in who has such good relationship with the GM just to see me hurt.
idk if I did anything wrong to not get the sympathy I desperately need. But I do know every single day for the past 6 weeks, I always mention the GM and how much it hurts that he walked out on me. I also bite people's head off but only when they get in my way. Don't forget that the day that GM walked out on me I cried in the restroom for half an hour, leaving my coworkers to pick up the slack.
I had only a brief respite during the past 6 weeks when a shift manager revealed to me that when asked, that GM denied ignoring me. I felt relief, but it only lasted a week because when he stopped by yet again, he ignored me. He responds when I try to talk to him, but on the scale on 1-10 with 10 being the most outgoing and friendly, he's always at least an 8 with my coworkers but barely a 2 with me. Every time he's here!
Are my colleagues so depraved that they couldn't even try to lift up someone who's hurting and falling apart? Instead, they tear her down even further. They're not the one he pushed away. And more importantly, they're not the ones who had so many people walk out on them like I had.
I worked with some of these people for 3 years. I was never quite normal. But the most they did was laugh it off as they continued to accept me...until 6 weeks ago. Did they change their attitude because I was going through hard times?
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Not sure how many times we are all going to tell you this, but your behavior is pushing people away which is very inappropriate especially in a work environment. Clinging on to people, crying for a half hour while you let your coworkers pick up the slack, stalking behavior in the workplace, obsessions, and just an unwillingness to accept that you're the reason people are distancing themselves from you. Better stop doing that right now or else they will fire you from that location as well. And also friendships are not really formed in the workplace. Coworkers are nice and cordial with each other, but true friendships are never formed especially if there's a huge age gap like at my work. My coworkers don't talk to me at all unless it is work related, and even then some don't talk to me. Yes, it is annoying, but I just brush it off. Crying because you're old GM and coworkers ignore you is not the way to handle it, especially since you did it to yourself. Sorry to be so harsh but your behavior is unprofessional and I suggest you seek help with a therapist and learn to take responsibility for your own actions.