i think this is an important question. i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters that it is possible to change yourself and to seek therapy if you aren't already. Working on our flaws is a good thing overall i think. It is not easy to recognize if we are the bad people in a relationship but i think it may be useful to ask a third party who's not involved of course if one wants to get a bit of a clearer picture. i am not sure if that is recommended though and of course i don't mean that one should drag other people into it but ask for advice if that is needed. This is just my opinion of course. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @annoyedgrunt84, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!