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Old Jun 28, 2021, 07:39 PM
Mystical_Being Mystical_Being is offline
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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel View Post
Some therapists believe that therapists shouldn't be long-term. T believes that. She'll only see clients weekly for two years. After that, she tries to taper down. She'll always be your therapist and you can always return. She jist won't do long-term. I had a counselor who said that therapists should be changed often...like politicians. Made sense to me. However, I prefer long-term therapy and thankfully L is offering me that.

Whether you continue or don't, that's completely up to you.

I chose to continue after ex-T abandoned me. It didn't even occur to me to stop trusting therapists. I just knew that I needed help and the only help I knew of was to get another therapist asap.

About starting over: technically you don't have to start from scratch right away. Just present them with your issues and work backwards (and forwards). I did that with T. We did both every session. About 15mins on history and 35mins on present issues. We had to. If she would have just only concentrated on "getting to know me", I would have fallen apart. But she did need some background information so she could be able to help me better.

I also hoped that ex-T was coming back. I knew she wouldn't, but I still hoped. It was hard with T. I even told her at one point that I hated her. But we worked through it. And I'm glad we did.

Eta: one of the therapists in Ls office just switched to her own practice to work on more specific issues and population. It happens. It doesn't mean it's your fault or because of you.
This therapist that is terminating me right now said in our intake session and sessions after that she did long term therapy and that was fine with her. Now that she has decided to terminate she is saying that the main thing I came to her for should have been resolved by now. I am being vague here but the stuff she says now is messy.

That's a good idea of doing part of the session on current issues and part on background. I just don't know if I have the emotional energy to go through it all again. I also had hoped my ex T was coming back. When I look back on it therapy has caused some worse issues than it has solved so to speak or perhaps my luck is just bad.
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