I will hopefully be talking to her tomorrow and will ask.

She has said that it "breaks her heart, too, what is happening." She's cried. But she seems very easily swayed by him. He gets angry with her all the time and all she does is try to please him. He's never happy with her but that's another story. She does a lot for him. Again, another story.

If she continues this, she may lose me. Which will be hard bc we love each other so much. Maybe that's not love though. Maybe...its not love to accept that the person you think you love is helping someone else harm you.

I don't have it in me to write a letter. Mainly because I don't want to apologize to him again, and I don't feel like being nice to someone who is hurting me.

What would I say to him (civilly)?

I don't want a relationship with him. I want a relationship with my parents. Honestly they are dysfunctional too, but I love them.