When things get to hurting in that way for me, I try to shift "wider" and include my stepmother and/or myself. When you're all "grown up" (in your fantasy world :-) and your own person, do you want to be that dependent on T? The 2 year old still has that wonderful urge to move away from the mother as well as keep her in sight to run back to for safety and comfort if something bad happens. Find your self, explore, urge and ease the hurt that way?