You said that the single greatest tragedy was your tragedy, and that what others suffer from chronic illness, etc., is not as bad as that. You judged that all those people with other kinds of problems, they get support, even though you do not know who gets what kind of support.

You don't have to SAY something for your attitude on it to be present.

It's present in how you spoke about this young woman and your manager in training.

And it puts people off.