I’m seeing a new T. I told her about a rupture with a previous T. In the rupture painful feelings were triggered by a combination of my contact with other people in my T’s life, who I crossed paths with when I saw the T for sessions at her home, by being kept waiting for a session and then my session finishing on time, and my T switching my regular time to suit another. My new T said that the T couldn’t have known these things would trigger me, as I didn’t speak up about it (until after) and I am more sensitive than other clients. I said I feel that a T has the responsibility to make therapy safe for a client, and that this T didn’t do that for me. I also said it’s hard for clients to speak up, and that many clients try therapy and give up. My new T didn’t agree with me, I don’t think this idea of a T being responsible for making the therapy relationship safe made sense to her.