*pedestal! So Sorry for what you guys have been through and are still going through! i agree with you and the other wise and wonderful posters that Love and mutual Respect are necessary to make a relationship work. It seems like she may have been insecure herself. Have you tried to tell her that this behavior was putting you off perhaps? Maybe some therapy could have been a good idea for her as well. In any case it is your decision how to move forward. i Hope things will improve really soon for everyone. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Vindicated17, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!