I feel for you wounded - being pregnant doesn't help. It sure does a job on your physical and emotional state. Kudos to you for pointing out it's important to him, not "us." Your emotions may be at a heightened state, but you're not stupid.

It's hard enough working on our own issues. It's even harder getting another person to work on their issues. We can provide them with tools, but we can't instill motivation in them or a desire to grow. We also can't expect their wounds to heal on our time schedule.

It was nice of you to offer him some free time, but please be careful when giving away for free what you can't afford to lose. In your condition, your health and that of your baby comes first. You're not doing yourself or your children any favors by playing "Superwoman." Put him to work if he offers to help - or agree upon a list of chores he can take off your hands. It's nice of you to think of your husband's welfare, but from where I'm sitting it doesn't look like he deserves any free favors or passes.

I'm glad you're taking all this advice with a grain of salt. In the end, you're the one who will have to live with the decisions you make in life. I hope this turns out well for you.