I feel this fairly often, I’m not sure it really is you, though. Some of these people are almost certainly projecting, when they say you’re toxic or whatever (as an example, I got told to “grow up” once by a high school class mate who was being very immature in that moment, while I was trying to stop him acting the idiot… actually I don’t think he ever did grow up, but that’s no longer my problem!). If you’re concerned that it *is* you, it’s a good idea to get the opinion of someone you trust.