Well it didn't last long!

Mother's birthday was nice, we went to local garden centre which has a great cafe. My aunt joined us. Problem arose when aunt announced she had to leave around 4pm to get to my brother's to watch England match. I left mother's house about an hour later. Brother had already visited previous day "to leave actual day open for us". Real reason was he wanted to watch the match.

Mother has told my aunt how hurt she is that she chose to watch soccer match elsewhere rather than continue to celebrate her birthday. Phone call today was usual diatribe about my attitude. The final straw was "I'm not seeking revenge as I would have done when I was younger". What a totally unacceptable thing to say to your daughter. Had quick chat with my aunt, who doesn't understand the attitude.

We may now have to address the dementia question, although I still believe this behaviour isn't anything new.