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When you got angry at them because they didn’t support your emotions, you pushed them away. Then they dislike you. Then you really feel more alone and angry. Do you see how you sabotaged yourself?
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I like your posts on here, they are so reflective.
What do you think she should have done instead of getting angry and pushing them away?
In theory anyway, because in practice she's likely not in a state where she can carry that out regularly. Maybe temporarily but then she would run out of energy and have another breakdown or outburst etc. etc.
I'm just curious about your thoughts about this.
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Attention Seeking Behavior in Adults: Causes, Other Symptoms, More
I think this whole thing has to do with attention seeking behavior. If you can’t get the positive attention of the GM and coworkers, then you’ll get negative attention. Any attention is good attention for you.
This is an article starting with attention seeking, then it discusses all the personality disorders. It’s food for thought, should you want to think about it.
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I looked at the article but I respectfully disagree that OP is doing this. It just does not look like that to me. To me OP seems to be venting a lot here and not having a lot of emotional control while doing so. She seems to have set priorities and seems to want to keep going in that direction, but I'm not entirely clear on what those priorities are. But since she's possibly expecting too much of herself, does not seek help enough, and not the right help either, and she's also not equipped to manage her emotions as it is now, she's going to have a LOT of negative emotions over it all, hence venting (just my take).
No one on here is required to participate in that or read the vents at all if it's too much for them, IMO.
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I understand you did not come here to change your faulty thinking and negative behavior. You want to keep doing what you are doing. I have total acceptance you do not want to change.
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Yes. I believe we can't really try and add input to help others if we are not prepared to accept this first. Because even if people want change, they are going to go at it at a different pace than what we, outsiders would expect from less than complete information of the situation (both internal and external situation). So it can be frustrating giving advice repeatedly, and we can decide if we are willing to take that frustration or just stop and disengage entirely.
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I can’t help but compare myself often on this forum. If I had people speaking to me harshly, I would be so upset, I’m sure I’d have an emotional meltdown. I was diagnosed with EDD or BPD traits. I’m not sure how anyone else with BPD (or any other disorder) would also respond to the tone of this thread. You don’t seem to mind. It makes me think you are enjoying the negative attention. Just my opinion for whatever it’s worth.
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I think she minds but she may not be aware of it herself, she's so sunk in the whole crisis. She's probably not able to separate out the emotions about this thread from the rest. I was going to mention it myself, how she's unable to respond and defend herself emotionally but you were faster at noting it than me.
I just don't agree with the conclusion - that it has to mean she enjoys any of this. Again, that article seems to be about very different people and situations. Not people in crises whose emotions are already unmanageable without help. Unless we would want to assume the whole story is made up and OP is just a troll messing with us but that to me feels like a paranoid, ungrounded assumption.
Anyway, I also don't think OP enjoys this because she repeatedly mentioned she doesn't like being disliked or "hated on".
She may want attention because of the BPD but not negative attention, I don't think, she has not displayed any masochism so far at least. But she seems to be most like, just trying to get advice, trying to feel like she can get some help, and venting without limits and without thought about how that comes across as well. I could be wrong of course on that. These are just my interpretations.