I figured that you may meant this. Thing is, I personally find that endorsement, because remaining neutral and accepting about things that harm people is a type of endorsement.



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Btw I'm not trying to excuse OP's behaviours or anything, because I do think she needs to take responsibility for seeking the right help. Group home, or whatever it is that would suit her, I don't know the US system, so I just listed group home as an example because I saw that mentioned in the thread earlier - but otherwise I have no idea if that's the suitable environment for her right now, but definitely not a McDonalds job.

And I don't really understand why she's not taking responsibility for that. Does she really want the idea of autonomy so much or is it something else she wants more than that? Or is she simply unable to even prioritise like that now? I would be interested in hearing more about that.