On one hand you can always do your own things and find social life on your own. I am not in a lonely marriage but I still like to go out and about on my own or girlfriends, not all the time of course. On the other hand if you two have nothing in common and don’t hang out together why be married?

Some of your husbands issues with socializing is likely due to ASD and maybe a wife with no interest in social life would be a good match for him but you want more than that. I am not suggesting to divorce of course but if you want to stay married you simply have to have your own life. Just because he wants to be alone and isolated it doesn’t mean you should. Not at all