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Originally Posted by Molinit
When I go to work, I'm being paid to work, not deal with someone's maladaptive behavior because they are having a delusion about a manager abandoning them or any other baggage.
OP has turned into a pain for coworkers. Who wants to listen to someone obsessively talk about one person all day, cry and speak about having a breakdown? Yelling at customers. Yelling at coworkers. Enough, already.
Not to mention OP is picking which station they want to work because if they put OP at the station she hates, well then here comes another round of complaining, crying, and breakdown.
OP shouldn't be working at all. Your "right" to work ends where you start burdening me with your problems.
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You would need to see the timeline too - OP was not rude at first, and had fewer breakdowns, a lot of that was in response to the responses of the coworkers/other managers.
Again, I am not trying to excuse anyone here, OP or anyone else either. I simply don't like it when people can't just disengage and keep boundaries to avoid getting too much into the other person's business emotionally at the workplace.
Like, you (general you) can just politely say no, you don't have time to talk about it, instead of having to kick the person further who's already down. OP wasn't lying about this one thing at all, she's been very down.
If the person is yelling at customers, not your problem. It's management's problem, not yours. You can just disengage from it and continue doing your own work.
Isn't this what you all have been suggesting to OP to do? Keep such distant and unemotional, professional boundaries. Even when she's very, very upset.
Then apply the same standards to the coworkers too. Even when they are very, very upset, they need to be able to remain professional and keep unemotional but polite boundaries.
And yes, I do realise in OP's situation her stuff must have come off very disconcerting and all that, even when she wasn't doing racist insults yet. But I already addressed that in my earlier post where I explained how I see this whole issue.