Ruby, I just want to point out: I acknowledge that it didn't mean anything different to you, but actually the "literal" meanings ARE different. Take and decline are literally two different words.

I'm not saying this to nitpick you, but because I'm trying to drive home that you're reading into something and also confusing concepts.

When he said "so it was declined?" And then mentioned that's what you should say, the appropriate response is simply "You're right I should have been clearer. Thank you for that suggestion." Instead you go right to rude.

These come from cognitive distortions in your mind. This is why you need professional help to help you understand the difference between things and how to respond appropriately. Also to help you manage your emotions, which seem very fragile. No one here is qualified to give you that help.

Part of the reason these things are called personality disorders has to do with it being so engrained. But you have got to be willing to challenge your thinking and look inward to make the changes. The common factor in everything is you. So if you can accept that you're the central figure in your story and the only way to change your story is to change you, you will have a chance at making progress and getting your goals. But if you can't accept that, and will not seek professional help to do it, then you have a high chance of repeating these same things over and over, and likely with escalating severity.

You will be doing yourself harm to go back to work before getting some professional help to work on these things.