Hello everyone. I’ve been thinking about this for awhile and figured I’d post about it here to see if I get any responses.

As some of you know I recently ended a relationship with someone who wasn’t right for me. As I’m starting to reflect on the relationship from start to finish , I’m trying to understand why I ignored a major red flag for me: his relationship with his mother.

Since college I’ve been rejecting guys who live with their mothers . (I moved out of my parents house when I was 18.) This guy had his mom, whom he lives with, shuttle us to a hiking trail on our first “date”. For him, it was normal, he lives with her, not a big deal. For me it didn’t register this was his mother driving him. I even thought she was cool cause she had tattoos.

Fast forward to over a year later and a post comes up in my Facebook memories from last July when we went on vacation. I said something about being on vacation for the first time in forever and his mom made a comment “and with a great companion”.

?!?!

(My ex bf is not on social media)

I mean what the? What kind of mother promotes her son on his gf’s social media account?

Of course things really devolved when I told her things didn’t work out because I was sober again and I didn’t want to hang out with someone who wasn’t. She asked me if he made demands on me too.

?!?!

I’m trying to understand how I got myself in this position in the first place.

As some of you know I’ve been around since 2014 and I feel like I should know better.

Anybody have any insight?