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Originally Posted by divine1966
We all should know better. With few exceptions everyone had relationship with at least one person when could be like “what was I thinking???” Not just about relationships. About other things. Influenced by other peoples opinions, denial, don’t trust your own guts etc etc Trusting oneself is important.
The only thing we could do is to try to learn from it. So next time you meet someone who is that dependent on their mother plus had other issues, you’d not go for it.
Good you only spent a year with a wrong person. Some waste 25 years of their life. So you didn’t really waste time. Very wise
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The thing is I think it’s a mutual dependence , like he pays rent, has his own car, but his mother handles his interface with the world. He would deny he was dependent on her but even this week he said something that made my stomach turn. He told me his mom told him he could put his feet in the hot tub since they were bothering him. I was thinking to myself, you talk to your mom about your aches and pains? I never talk to my mom and the only time I hear from my dad is when he sends me a picture of their dog.
Another thing I’ve been thinking about this situation is when a man is that close to his mom it leaves no room for a woman, like I’m always in competition with his mom for how much I love him. Furthermore I could never love him like his mom does because I don’t have to love him unconditionally. It’s just not right all around.
Thank you for encouraging me. I have to work with him so it’s not like I can forget him. We maintain a close friendship at this point . The people we work with still think we’re dating and it’s better that way.