there is no step by step guide on how to forgive someone because forgiving someone is a personal choice, you either decide to hold grudges against someone who did what ever wrong to you or you decide their friendship or other relationship to you is more important.

I do not hold grudges against people who have wronged me in any way that that wrong came in the form of.

I just decided one day its more important for me to fill my life with what brings me pleasure instead of constantly worrying about that thing done wrong to me.

its a mental maturity thing all people go through. you just decide what kind of life you want to have. one of constantly hating someone else or filling your life with happiness.

Example when I was notified that my abusers were being released from prison, I knew I had choices.

1. I could live my life in fear and hate
2 I could set up safety measures and worry and hate.
3 I could set up safety measures then go on with my life by enjoying things that bring me pleasure and happiness.

I am not a person filled with hate. It only hurts me to feel hateful. what would it accomplish if I was constantly filled with hate for that other persons. its not like they are going to know that I full of hate would be worrying and not sleeping at night. no my abusers are out living their life in how ever they feel brings them pleasure and freedom so why should I put myself in mentla prison by constantly hating another person who hurt me, all that would accomplish was me hurting myself. my hate wasnt hurting my abusers in any way, they were free to do what ever they wanted to.

I chose three because the best revenge against someone who has wronged me is for me to have a happy hate free life. it doesnt hurt them to see me on the streets seathing with hate. they would laugh because they were so high and mighty that they could make a small child now woman scared and hateful.

what does hurt them is when they see me living my life and free of the pain that they caused me.

I added locks to my home doors and windows and decided to leave the hating where it belonged on them and my filling own life with happiness, joy,

there is no manual for how to forgive someone. its a personal choice. you will need to make your own choices of whether you want to continue spending time on hating someone or giving yourself the kind of life you would like free of hate. only you can decide whether you want to continue holding on to grudges of someone has done you harm. or fill your life with sunshine and happiness.

maybe you can find a therapist that can help you work on you and your problems so that one day you will be able to make these personal choices too.