everyone needs help and compassion, but we are still expected to take responsibility for our words and actions, no? Even if you (general you) have insecurities.


Are these examples not emotionally abusive to you?

"i was given this false narrative that i am only with her because she was the “safe choice” and that to be with her then i was only “settling”. A false narrative that i am only using her"

"what do you mean by that as you do less and less every?”"

"“maybe someone doesn’t need all that you do do”"

and how about their effect on op? That op described in detail. It does sound like repeated emotional abuse to me based on all that. Or are you trying to say all that was in op's imagination and not real emotional effects?


So... People may have insecurities but they need to take responsibility for dealing with them rather than act like vampires and do cluster b drama like op's girlfriend seems to have done.