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Originally Posted by Alive99
Yes, though in a different situation (not romantic and so it was different sentences but a lot of the underlying stuff was the same). Don't listen to anyone that says you need to give even more of yourself to people who are not ready for a secure relationship and who blame it their lack of readiness on you. Do you have any questions? I can try and answer if you have any
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At this point I do have a question on how and what can I do to escape this trauma bond. It's been four months since I have walked away and yet I still think about the past and hurtful times (also positive memories). I find that the relationship to this day consumes most of my thoughts and energies. I did some reading on trauma bonds and believe this to be the case, I've tried therapy but found the one hour sessions every other week to be expensive and at the end of the day I could just talk and vent about the issues to friends, or internet forums. I have overwhelming frustration and anger at the other party. Instead I bet the downfall was projected on me and that after all "Oh I must have never loved them" and "I didn't love them unconditionally" after all. It makes me so upset and angry because you can still love someone unconditionally but you can do so from afar and not accept their bad behavious and/or abuse.