Yeah, I do not think it's useful to overanalyze my response. My response simply was meant to point out the difference between Ruby's thinking and others' thought processes on this thread. I wasn't being sarcastic, to be clear: it's just obvious that Ruby takes little to no accountability for her bad behaviors that turn others away.

Ruby, do you see this in yourself? When you ask us questions about whether the GM turns away from any other people in his life, and when you state that the GM abandoned you, when you go around work complaining about being traumatized because he turned away from you, and given the title of this thread, you seem to ignore all input that states that you caused this and brought this upon yourself. Do you agree with that?

And deep down, I believe that you DO wish to learn how to behave better because you've asked us how to distinguish when one person says something the right way, and how when you say something similar, it's taken the wrong way. What you must also understand is that you need to learn how to respect boundaries and what that means for people within a professional work environment. It means picking up on people's discomfort, on people taking offense, or picking up on something you've said being inappropriate by the way people react. The way you learn is by watching others and how they behave - the ones who seem respected and appreciated at work. You can mirror their behavior and model yourself after those who are respected within a work environment.