It’s not just wanting to change, it’s why she wants to change. If it’s to get what she wants, that’s not addressing the root problem. Somebody posted a list of cognitive distortions. She has to start with her thinking, and recognizing where it is off, which is usually done with a therapist. I wonder if her father was absent growing up , or if he rejected her because of her differences. It sounds like ruby wants the approval of authority figures. I remember interacting with ruby in chat and that was awhile ago. I haven’t seen any change. I remember thinking back then she was intense. I can only imagine how neurotypical people would respond in real life. I agree with those who said until she gets her issues under control she should not be working. There are vocational programs for people with mental health disabilities.