Thanks divine1966, that about sums it up, “excellent employees yet terrible life partners”.
The reason I finally asked my ex husband to leave is because he kept quitting job after job so I thought that someone who had been in management would surely be a better choice . I was wrong.
My ex bf controls his drinking, smoking and drugging . He knows how much he can drink so he can drive, he counts his cigarettes and he makes sure only to drug (he resents me calling marijuana a drug) when his mom isn’t around or can’t smell what he’s doing. In fact it really disturbed me how they have this arrangement where if she doesn’t see what he’s doing then she can ignore it even though she disapproves. I found out she looks at how many bottles he puts in the recycling. That is so codependent and dysfunctional. He doesn’t care.