I don't think it harms people per se to give attention to Ruby. But it might hurt her if it just confuses her more, etc. Even if that's not the intent of anyone. So I was not trying to blame anyone, or say that we should all just ignore Ruby. I was saying that I think it would only really work if Ruby also put in a lot more work herself, in a *structured* way at that (doing psychoeducation, during therapy, or any other form of relevant help), which I called homework. I am not blaming her either for not doing so btw. I am just stating that that is what would work better than this. She would then likely absorb the useful bits of the advice better from here too, without getting confused so much.