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Old Jul 07, 2021, 07:02 AM
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Originally Posted by DoroMona View Post
I'll just add--everyone suggests this is not the right job for me. That's probably right, but I can't leave. I convinced various friends to join the venture telling them what a great group and technology it was--I believed it at the time, oops. I can't just abandon them now. I feel really trapped as a result which probably isn't helping my mental state.
Regarding my SO...I guess he also has his stress. He was apologetic later and has sort of tried to do a little more around the apartment lately, I think sensing that I'm overworked and overwhelmed.
@DoroMona, you don't owe your friends your entire life. Just because you brought them to the company doesn't mean that it's now a requirement for you to stay and put up with sheer misery. In business, you have to look out for #1 always, and that's YOU. If you're miserable, overworked and overwhelmed, you owe it to yourself to make a change and that means looking for a job that is not in a startup. You didn't force your friends to go there - they decided that all on their own. You're responsible for yourself and yourself alone - not for your friends. That's my two cents! Feeling stuck out of perceived obligation is no way to live! I would look for another job ASAP and I would try to leave this job ASAP.
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