“I look back at things as every now and then she would "check in" so to speak to see if I was still on bored for owning a home together. We had talked about how we would get lawyers involved so that what I put into the home would always be mine and what she put in would be hers should we need to sell it one day. Also, she wanted to pay the mortgage by ratio of wages. So, I said that would be fine, but then I would need my ratio to also be mine upon sale if that ever happened and her ratio to be hers upon sale....get this....she never agreed to that!!!! So, I would be paying more into this asset monthly and yet she would reap the rewards if we ever sold? That made ZERO sense to me!!!“

You stated she was having a hard time paying her mortgage, you state she was looking for you to put in more money but she would equally benefit at the sale. Her checking in with you is the tactic of a salesperson trying to close the deal! It sounds like she was somewhat desperate for money for her living situation and you were potentially her solution.

It makes zero sense to you, because you assume her motive is pure love and respect, care for you and your well being. In reality, her motive was her well-being.

When a con is trying to take advantage of you, they will be relentlessly persistent and forceful. They will use every tactic to try to get their way.

Of course, you made the right call to say no and break up. It’s only been a few months since you ended it. It’s understandable for you to reflect. I hope you’ll feel better soon. You dodged a bullet.