Very difficult times indeed. I'm so sorry to hear about your grandparents accident and the probs you are having with your mom.
It certainly sounds like everyone's emotions are very raw right now. It will take time for them to quiet down some. I hope you can take some deep breathes.....try to calm yourself as best you can and concentrate on taking good care of yourself so that you can work through the tough times.
Sending you some peaceful thoughts and strength.

sabby