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Originally Posted by Rose76
I doubt if any psychotropic meds could change how he is very much. He never cut the cord with Mom. He likely never will. Using other people's meds is just another manifestation of his dependency pattern. He doesn't want to really commit to having a personal program of recovery and reform for himself. He'll dabble in this or that, but always rely on Mom as the centerpiece of his "program." He may take a fit to get a concession from her, but those concessions are small things. She maintains control over the big stuff.
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Well he claims he’s not dependent on her at all, that he does what he does out of love. Like initially he stayed home after his mom was widowed and then he just never left. Plus his mom has a boyfriend.
He very much “brought me into his family”, which was really strange for me considering I left home at 18, have already married and divorced and have my own adult child.
It disturbed me how he would tell his mom about what happened at work and she would soothe him. I never had those kind of conversations with my parents, much less at the dinner table. I would go out to lunch once in awhile with my dad and we would catch up but that was it. It disgusted me how his mom would empathize and sympathize with him and it also told me there was no room for me. When we would argue about this he would point out he wasn’t having sex with his mom and it shouldn’t be a problem he was close to her. I always wondered how he would feel if the roles were reversed , however that would never happen.