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Originally Posted by leomama
Well he claims he’s not dependent on her at all, that he does what he does out of love. Like initially he stayed home after his mom was widowed and then he just never left. Plus his mom has a boyfriend.
He very much “brought me into his family”, which was really strange for me considering I left home at 18, have already married and divorced and have my own adult child.
It disturbed me how he would tell his mom about what happened at work and she would soothe him. I never had those kind of conversations with my parents, much less at the dinner table. I would go out to lunch once in awhile with my dad and we would catch up but that was it. It disgusted me how his mom would empathize and sympathize with him and it also told me there was no room for me. When we would argue about this he would point out he wasn’t having sex with his mom and it shouldn’t be a problem he was close to her. I always wondered how he would feel if the roles were reversed , however that would never happen.
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I don't doubt that he loves his mother. After my mother died, I spent a month staying with my father. Then he told me he would be alright on his own. So I left. In. some cultures, it's normal for a widowed woman to live with an adult child. But we are not one of those cultures. Plus, she's young enough to have a new S.O. herself, so she would not be struggling on her own.
It seems to me that he can't make a move without her knowing all about it. Even if he didn't actually live in her basement. I think that would still be the case. He's not financially dependent on her. But he sure sounds abnormally involved with her. Even if it seems like she is dependent on him, it sure seems like the dependency goes two ways. Was he ever married or in a committed relationship before? If so, I wonder how that worked out? I'll bet his mom has strong opinions about any girlfriend he's ever had. I think a relationship with him would always be a "trio," even if he was living on the other side of town.