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Originally Posted by sarcgeo
leomama,
Wow, what a complicated situation. I guess it would've helped if I read that you work with this dude. That is very difficult and complicated. I have often felt grateful that most, if not all, of the women that I work with are either married or way older than I. I could not imagine how difficult it must be to have to work with this man after all this mess.
Regarding his mother....He is very lucky to have his mother in his life. I lost my mother 11 years ago and would give anything to have one day with her. It is obvious that she enables him and possibly stunted his social growth by how much she cares for his needs. He is also very lucky that he has had the opportunity to have romantic episodes in his life, considering the amount of doting his mother gives him. I don't wish ill on anyone, but he is in for a rude awakening the day his mother passes.
Regardless, use this forum, as do I to vent...feel free to vent
--Sarc
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Yeah he probably feels the same way you do about his mother especially since his father died suddenly.
Yes I work with him and he is well liked at work, not by everyone, but everyone that is female . The only 2 people I’ve heard say anything negative about him are male. He’s very charming (and arrogant).
It’s actually not a mess because of how I’m holding it together. I think I will actually have to leave to fully break it off. I haven’t lost my attraction to him which is part of the problem.
I told his mother she stunted his emotional growth by keeping him at home.
And it’s not just that he lives there but it’s the relationship, it’s the having to greet her upon arrival, the dinners, the calling her at lunch or after work to check in about dinner , he looks at his duty to feed her. It’s like ok thanks for letting me know where I’m at in the pecking order.
I hate venting but obviously I’ve got quite a bit of resentment built up. The only good thing is if venting here keeps me from making a sharp remark to him, then good, cause he’s not going to change and I look like the idiot .
He’s fully convinced his way of life is correct and there’s nothing wrong with it.
Thank you again for listening.