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Originally Posted by ruby2011
Never heard of REBT before you mentioned it so I looked it up. Sounds perfect.
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Yeah, it's good stuff! Glad you find it useful for yourself.
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Originally Posted by ruby2011
Every few years is not frequent. However, WHEN someone walks out on me, it’s in a HARSH and severely rejecting way. It’s the degree of rejection. Also, the person walking out on me was someone I cared about DEEPLY. And they used to care about me. It’s not just the frequency. It’s the degree of rejection and the quality of their previous kindness to me.
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The following may take time to process if you want to look at it more. I don't expect you to believe this right here and now, I will throw it out here anyway for the same reason as earlier.
So. It may be that you could have much deeper personal relationships than the ones you had with these managers. With people who get you as much or more than these managers, and who do actually have a personal relationship with you, not simply a superficial one at the workplace. You could experience way more quality kindness and care in those relationships for the reason that it would be more personally meant for you than with these managers. The behaviour you experienced from this manager now was rude but like others say it's not as personal when it's at work than if in a private relationship. It was rude but not that PERSONAL on their end, in other words. Your sensitive personal feeling made it feel harsher and more personal than what it was on their end. So, it can be rude behaviour, yet not too deeply personal in INTENT. It may be careless and rude, but not intended to deeply hurt you. Careless in not considering how it could hurt you deep, but not intended to hurt that deep. Not intended to attack you in that deep way.
You may edit this description for your own situation, but make it your goal that you overcome this experience and make it just part of life and not let it define you and your life.
I think I've demonstrated enough of the principle.