Hi All. Hope you are safe and healthy, wherever you are.

I am a 39 yo single woman. I desperately need to discuss a problem concerning my younger sister (32, married).

My sister loves me a lot. She knows I was neglected as a child so she tries to buy me nice things, sends me comfort food when I am sick, wants me to go stay with her, the whole works. Nobody has ever treated me so thoughtfully, and I am very grateful to have her in my life. Yes, she has a lot of psychological issues (things I discussed in an earlier thread) but she is seeing a therapist for it. So far so good.

The problem is, the nicer she is acting towards me the more trapped I am feeling. Whenever she meets me she expects to be kissed and hugged and treated like a baby. She speaks in a baby voice and cocks her head in a childish way and pouts and sings 'cute' little songs and they simply drive me crazy. She wants us to eat together, read books together, watch shows together. She wants me to dote on her 24 hours a day. So much so that I breathe a sigh of relief when she finally leaves to join her husband. I have started to dread her visits now.

I have tried to communicate my problem with her but she acts disproportionately hurt and dejected, as though I have crushed her feelings.

She is a nice person and I know she loves me. I know I shouldn't feel this way about a person who is my family and who loves me so much. But she truly suffocates me. She is coming tomorrow and already my anxiety has spiked. I tried to dissuade her but she said she misses me. What can I say to that? I want her in my life and I don't want to hurt her but I can't go on like this. Or am I the monster for thinking this way? Please help, I am going crazy. Or am I overreacting? I am not sure of anything. I hate drama and this is the most dramatic post I've written haha...but please, any insights?