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Originally Posted by Alive99
After reading this thread of yours and the other one too, I am more and more convinced you've been emotionally gaslighted through various manipulations (like I was too). If you feel the need to endlessly find more justifications about your decision, even though your decision has been based in the facts very much and a very sensible one, then clearly you've been affected on an emotional level even if perhaps subconsciously. Like you mentioned in your other thread, it relates to false narratives too. Let's just call a spade a spade though....those false narratives were lies. I'm sorry. I again wish you luck with figuring out all the gaslight and moving from all of it. You've definitely made the right decision, TishaBuv and everyone else is very right about how she was looking out for her own well-being wayyyy more than yours let alone your kids' well-being.
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Hello! I very much feel the need to endlessly find more justifications and know I'm emotionally effected by all that went on. I will even just cycle through the same justifications over and over again. I am having a tough time understanding why this is as I have accepted the end of the relationship, I do not want this person back and would have very fierce words for them if I ever saw them again. I just want to move on and be happy. Maybe it's the step of forgiving in order to stop battling with these issues? Maybe I have not forgiven them for all of the mental hurt that I felt and still feel to this very day. They occupy too much of my mental space each day. I don't think I have ever walked away from someone due to these types of issues and rather someone had cheated on me so my brain handled it different. This is by far the most turmoil and pain and struggle post-breakup. I know I did the right thing but all of that logic doesn't seem to coincide with how my heart feels.