Thank you for your post! If the scenario was that she passed, the father of her kids would take responsibility for sure and they would have just lived with him and I would most likely end up selling the home and down sizing.

Further to this post, about 2 months into the relationship she questioned me on how much money I made...I had told her not a whole lot more than her (which was true at the time). Because I never gave an exact dollar amount she accused me of being "secretive" and that I "hide things"...this pushed some buttons within me for sure as I know my character and I am not someone to hide anything nor be secretive and I basically broke up with her (for a day). This was a red flag I should have seen and just ended things at that time. I never ever after 2.5 years did tell her a dollar amount of my salary that I made because of that incident and my salary did increase by over 30%.