Are you in therapy? It is interesting how you seem to be attracted to older men (P is 51 to your 28 & D is 10 years older), so maybe a pattern worth exploring.

At the end of the day, you are an adult. So, it is your life and your decision. However, you did ask for our thoughts, so here goes.

Man 1: a relationship which started with lies and deceit shows you the true colours and character of said person. He knew how young you were and he lied and pretended to be somebody else, so as to reel you in. It is unlikely such a character would change. I see red flags. And that is *without* taking his age into consideration and his ensuing 'baggage'. You might not think age makes such a difference now but twenty-three years make a heck of a lot of difference. You won't have much, if anything, in common.

Man 2: you don't really know him either, apart from - again - being much older. You had a 'whirlwind romance' where he already showed his jealousy?!

I would be careful as there is a world of difference meeting someone online or even long-distance versus a real-life connection. That is when you generally get to know someone and/or if you could be good life partners.

I don't find any of these choices attractive and instead, see red flags. My advice would be to say 'move on' and look for a guy who is in your geographical vicinity (rather than an online or long-distance persona) and closer to your age.