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Originally Posted by Britedark
I went through your post and the responses and there are some very helpful suggestions. One thing that helped me enormously after my break up with a controlling ex was to do everything he had forbidden me to do. I still celebrate the day of our break up and call it Independence Day. Instead of mourning the demise of your relationship is it possible to see it as a celebration, the end of a bad chapter? Maybe go to a restaurant by yourself (corona permitting), order your favourite food and drinks, eat dessert, buy some expensive cologne, basically do/buy anything you enjoy. Indulge in some major self care and remind yourself that you are worth it. What doesn't kill you et cetera.
If this feels unhelpful please ignore. I do not intend to invalidate your pain. Just sharing what helped me.
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Thank you for your post! I have pretty much done all that you mentioned and I would do those things as well during the relationship. I always wanted to still have "Me" time which I made time for when time permitted. What I am looking forward to still doing though alone is going Fishing, Going to the Movies (When it opens back up), Going to the bar to watch a sporting event (When it opens back up), Booking Massages etc. Like everyone I am sure I have my up days and down days. Totally was totally an up day. What helped was reading everyone's responses/posts in the couple of threads I had posted and they help give me that reassurance that I am not alone in any of this. Thank you to everyone for their words, time, suggestions, experiences and advice!