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Originally Posted by divine1966
Some people maintain unhealthy excessive attachment to parents or adult kids or job or a hobby or sports or social media or pets or houses or substances etc etc (or insert anything else) in order to remain unavailable for anything else, especially romantic relationship. They might appear available but deep inside they aren’t. Any excessive attachment makes one unavailable. No medication can fix that. All we can do is to work on our attraction to unavailable men. We can’t fix them
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Thank you [emoji120] I’m not sure that’s the problem as he’s trying to make himself available to me. I think it boils down to a lifestyle difference . If I have a mental health diagnosis , I’m going to do whatever I can to optimize my life. If I have dysfunctional parents, I’m going to leave .
In this case I was blindsided by the pandemic [emoji40] When I took him to my priest, my priest asked if it was a pandemic relationship. At the time I said no, but now I see it was. The pandemic caused me to make all kinds of changes in my life I wouldn’t have otherwise made. Now that the pandemic is winding down I’m seeing that.
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