I met one on a chat/socialising site, and I met D in real life, as I said in my OP, he lives next to my relatives. I went out with him a few times and met some of his friends, too, and I guess if he comes in August, he'll meet some of mine. I only had the opportunity to do video chats with P, but I will be happy to visit him when corona restrictions are loosened etc.

I expected the negative comments about P in a way, but surely D is a sure option? Either way, it is my decision, I forgave the first but am very confused about how to decide.