She asked you how much you make after only two months, she started working on you about the house after only six months, but the relationship lasted 2.5 years. She must have been able to pay her own living during that time since you remained in separate homes. I hadn’t realized how long the relationship had lasted and this timeline until now.

It sounds to me more like she originally must have wanted merged families with you. I’d think her preference would have been to marry you, join whatever monies, live as one family- the traditional ‘story’. But, somehow she settled for just buying the house together unmarried. I assume maybe you told her you never want to marry which made her ask for less? She keeps working you over about the house and you keep stalling. You were willing to go to a lawyer to make it fair for all, so you were willing to get the house, but she wanted no legal understanding, so you didn’t get the house with her. I’m confused about why she didn’t go to the lawyer to get the house with you when you offered?

Then she spends 2.5 years with you. Over that time the honeymoon phase ends and she feels less romantic attention from you, gets insecure, gets vocal about it, feels the relationship slipping away, and it ends. She sabotaged herself. She got nothing of what she wanted and spent 2.5 years getting more and more disappointed and frustrated.

I don’t understand why you both gave the relationship 2.5 years. It sounds like she wanted it to move in a direction that it didn’t. I’m saying, if she had wanted you to get married and live as one family over a certain period of time and that wasn’t what you wanted, wouldn’t she end the relationship? But she didn’t. She just got more insecure and complained and then you ended it.

How did you feel about the relationship, in general, during those 2.5 years? Were you enjoying it just how it was and feeling fulfilled?