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VillanelleArcher
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Default Jul 09, 2021 at 09:39 AM
 
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Originally Posted by Lonelyinmyheart View Post
What do you hope to gain from telling her? What you describe rings alarm bells and you need to tread carefully here. Attraction often emerges in therapy and it can be useful to talk about, but both parties need to be clear on where the boundaries lie so the feelings can be discussed openly without exploitation. If you want to tell her as a way to understand and work with these feelings and where they're coming from it might be useful, but acting them out in the relationship isn't ethical. My suggestion is to be honest with yourself about why you want to tell her about your feelings and reactions. If it's because deep down you're hoping she might feel an attraction to you, that's definitely a sign to slow down and consider what you're in therapy for. If your therapist shows any signs of attraction to you that's a definite indication you need to find a different therapist who keeps ethical boundaries. And self-responsibility is a factor here too in knowing what brings this reaction on and how to prevent it disrupting your therapy work.
I told her I was aroused last session but I didn't specify how/why except that Phenibut probably had something to do with it (which it did). She didn't really have a response (those pre-fabricated "What you're feeling comes from ~therapy not me" etc) but it didn't seem to bother her at all. She was actually very confident about it, I thought she'd be taken aback. When I tried to change the subject she went right back to it "So you were aroused in our session?" ... I even joked that I wanted her to stop looking at me and she hid behind a pillow. She didn't set boundaries (as in: didn't tell me it wasn't possible etc) but IMO it wasn't necessary, she knows I know how it is.
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