Maybe not today, but soon. D is coming over in August and things have the potential to turn serious. So I don't know whether to tell him now there is somebody else in the picture, too, before he gets potentially attached more and before I have to disappoint him/let him down worse. Or whether to tell him before he leaves. But it is possible he will want to quit the "r-ship." if I tell him that I have my mind split btw. two options.

I guess it would help my decision to go visit P in his country, but right now my finances are tight so that wouldn't happen before at least 4 months on, so that would prolong the decision and I think D would want to know why I'm not allowing things to get serious btw. us soon.


By the way, thanks to all for your efforts in advising. I am thinking about it.