i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about considering whether or not you want to truly end your marriage here. i think counseling or couple counseling may prove Helpful as well even if you reach the same conclusion. At least you will have some clarity i think. Hugs. i Hope things will tunr out Ok for everyone. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Cleco, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!