Great answer, chaotic! I agree with all you said.

Sunrise, about the colleague, it's hard to say exactly what's prompting her resistance. It's a shame that happened, though. It could be a combination of all of what's been suggested. Perhaps it's not a good topic for discussion between the two of you, at least for now until you find out more for yourself and decide how you want to handle it. What's most important is getting what you need to function and feel as well as you can, not what others think, imo.

Good luck!

gg