Personally whenever I felt unsettled or not fully trusting or anxious etc it was because my guts were telling me that these men were wrong for me. When I’ve met the right one I felt none of that. I heard it from many women who felt insecure or fear of abandonment or anxious and thought it was them. Then they met the right match and they felt none of that. So wasn’t really them. Well it was in a sense of their guts telling them to be careful