If you’ve never met any of them, I am not sure how you can consider a relationship or even choose between them and why. No matter how long you talk to them, they are strangers. I’d be looking for someone local

Oh never mind you did meet one of them but still it means nothing. One of them is in his 50s so that’s the one that lied? Why do you want any of these guys? Are there no young free men in your area?

You seem extremely trusting. He told his kids about you? I am sure he didn’t do such a thing. What would he tell? That he talks to a much younger woman he’s never met? What would he say it for? Also all these men planning life with you when they don’t even know you, and they all love you, that’s just not how it works.