What you want is not necessarily what the other person wants. To give or to get. It can get very complicated. Its not one thing, one item of attention, handed back and forth. Its you do something they want, they do something you want.

Otherwise you have to wait until you are an old guy and you just meet the same bunch of other old guys for coffee at mcdonalds every morning.

This is why god invented sex. It makes you think you have something in common.

Dont mind me, im old but i was cynical when i was younger too.