RV - I'm sorry you lost a dear friend who might have survived with more timely interventions.

Not being in danger doesn't mean not being in distress. But you feeling terribly distressed does not get you to the head of the line for receiving help. You get help faster, if you cause others to be distressed. If you ask for help politely and quietly, you get drowned out by those who create more drama.

Thanks for your post and your empathy.