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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I don’t know what she might be thinking, only she does. To me, she deterred your facebook request and left you no phone number to pursue friendship after their moving. In other words, the friendship is to not be continued in her mind. She said ‘sure, okay’ when put on the spot, but didn’t mean it. It may be because she is a married woman and you are male so she doesn’t feel it’s appropriate to pursue this friendship.
Since she moved and you have lost touch, it doesn’t matter that you sent her the letter. You have lost nothing. The friendship was only what it was while you were neighbors. You didn’t do anything to beat yourself up over. But, I wouldn’t pursue her farther.
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Yes, your insight might very well be the case. I may be that she wished things to end after our last conversation.
During the conversation when it was about to end was when I brought up the Facebook question. Of course, I could have been seeing with rose colored glasses. But the impression I had was not like the idea was awkward to her when she went on to describe her profile, kind of like "this is how to find it", then okay, sure.
But I understand. Kind of like inviting someone to a party on the spot. The invitee might enthusiastically say "Oh yeah, sure, great, love to be there" but really not wish to go to the party.
I would have had more regret had I done nothing and let the conversation end without asking. I'd be kicking myself more. But I totally agree with you in the no further pursing.